Anonymous asked: I hate myself. I don't look like the man I picture in my head and I can't take it. I've tried everything to look more manly... I'm crazy, I can't take this anymore... What do I do?
transgenderteensurvivalguide:
Fox says:
Watch documentaries about caterpillars.
Seriously— you’re the caterpillar. You’re looking at the butterfly like, “That’s so awesome! That’s who I want to be!” And you’re so focused on the butterfly that you’re forgetting to make a caccoon, brother.
You have to find a safe place to snuggle up and encase yourself in webbings, or whatever. It takes work, time, dedication, craftsmanship…and you will become the butterfly.
STEP 1. Make a list of short-term goals. “I will cut my hair.” “I will grow out my arm/leg/etc. hair.” “I will acquire more neutral or masculine clothing.”
STEP 2. Make a list of long-term goals. “I will practice lowering my voice each day for one hour.” “I will get acquainted with my body to combat dysphoria.” “I will find new ways to combat dysphoria.” “I will come out to ___________________.”
**Note, these are all simply examples and none of them are requirements to being a man. NONE of them.
STEP 3. Work on goals.
STEP 4. Become a butterfly. Wait, no. Become who you want to be. Through patience, knowledge, understanding, and believing in yourself. One day at a time.
Anonymous asked: hey uh, do you have any tips that aren't shoe lifts for dealing w/ height dysphoria? I get it really bad and I'm around 5'3.5 on a good day :c
transgenderteensurvivalguide:
Fox says:
- vertical stripes
- sleep stretched out rather than curled up
- do not smoke or be around smokers
- do not take steroids unless medically necessary
- sleep 8 1/2 to 10 hours per night
- healthy diet
- drink lots of water
- vitamins
- exercise regularly
- read up on proper posture
- confidence is key
- never sleep in your binder (although this is important even when you’re not trying to grow)
- boots/sports shoes/dress shoes
- NO BAGGY CLOTHING
- dress monochromatic (same colour, different shades)
- short hair
- spike up aforementioned hair
- dark clothes
this list is getting to be too long ok here you go i hope this helps
Anonymous asked: Hey guys, I'm FTM and I'm 5ft... There isn't much chance of me growing in the future. Do you know of anything I can do with my heigh? It's making my body dysphoria a lot worse. - C.
trans-matters:
Alright, here are some tips that lend you the illusion of height:
- Heighten your hair style. Try haircuts with shorter sides and a longer top, then be sure to style the hair on top into a fohawk, which can add up to an inch to your height. Hair gel is recommended to achieve the look.
- Put heel inserts in your shoes. They can add up to 1.5 inches to your height, depending on the thickness of the insert.
- Get shoes with thick soles. Not too thick, of course. You don’t want to roll your ankle. Just inch-thick soles to add subtle height.
- Wear dark pants and shoes. Dark wash jeans or black pants make the legs look leaner. Matching your pants and shoes makes your legs appear longer because of the continuation from legs to feet…if that makes sense.
- Stay away from horizontal stripes. They make you appear wider. Vertical stripes will make you appear longer.
- Stay away from baggier clothing. Baggier clothes on smaller-stature people makes it seem like they are drowning in the clothing. Comfortable-fit or slim fit clothing works best when you’re trying to appear taller.
- Don’t wear overly-long shirts. Your shirts should stop around your pockets. This is because the shorter the shirt, the more leg is showing, which appears like your legs are longer. Don’t make your shirts too short though, or else they will look ill-fitting.
- Wear jackets that make your shoulders look broader. It’ll make you seem larger.
But remember, height isn’t a deciding factor in how “manly” you are. There is no correct way to be a guy.
Anyway, I hope this helps!
-Mod T
1. To increase cardiovascular fitness levels?
20 Mins, 2-5 times a week.
2. To lose weight?
20-30 mins, 3 times a week.
3. To tone up?
2 sets of 15 reps, 2 times a week.
4. To maintain fitness / weight?
20-40mins, 3 times a week.
5. To increase flexibility?
5-10 mins, everyday.
so essentially: 20-30 minutes 3x a week, with 5-10 minutes in between. on the outliers, do the rep thing
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— Maya Angelou (via observando)
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